A student-operated publication at Santa Rosa Junior College.

The Oak Leaf

A student-operated publication at Santa Rosa Junior College.

The Oak Leaf

A student-operated publication at Santa Rosa Junior College.

The Oak Leaf

Dating: makers and breakers

A good first impression can truly be a “dealmaker” in successfully changing a stranger to an acquaintance, life-long friendship or romantic relationship. Furthermore , a bad first impression can also be a “deal breaker.” A bad first impression is always more memorable than a good one. Santa Rosa Junior College students have their own opinions of what their dealmaker’s or deal breakers  are.

Aki Aslan, 28, said his first dealmaker would be good style and body language. He notices one’s style and fashion sense first, to get a feel for the person’s vibe, then body language to see if they are  open and comfortable enough to carry on a conversation.

His ultimate deal breaker  is when someone spreads negativity and is rude to people who work in the service industry.  If anyone is interested in getting Aslan’s  attention, don’t let him catch you being mean to your bartender.

Chloe Rosenquist, 20, admitted her absolute dealmaker is a random act of kindness. Go out of your way to pick up some trash, help an animal in distress, assist an elderly person across the street or hold the door open and you will grab Rosenquist’s attention.

Her deal breaker would have to be overly judgmental people; like anyone who expresses sexist or racist behavior. If you want a chance to talk to Rosenquist, go out of your way to make a stranger’s day.

Jesus Beltista, 22, values eye-contact and a warming smile for his first impressions. He says a nice smile can draw in his interest since it’s so rare for complete strangers to smile at each other these days.

Conversely,  his deal breaker would be an overall negative demeanor. He said if he can tell someone is in a bad mood or has a negative outlook on life, it is a complete turn-off and would make him reconsider talking to that person. So don’t rain on Beltista’s parade.

For Dani Patterson, 23, her crucial deal breaker is when someone judges another based solely on appearance. She can’t tolerate when people are only concerned about how someone looks; and point out other’s flaws to tear them down.

In contrast, her deal maker would compliment a complete stranger in hopes of lifting them up and trying to make their day more positive. You never know how much that one compliment could brighten that  person’s day.

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